KonMari Kons: The Downsides To The KonMari Method

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In my experience, there are at least two major downsides to the KonMari Method, both of which will have a negative impact on your life and your enjoyment thereof. If you’re doing the Method or considering doing the Method, these are the things you need to know. ‘Cause it ain’t all sunshine and roses, folks.


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I’ve gone through the KonMari Method twice now and most of you will already know that, in general, I'm a fan. It’s really helped me clear out a lot of clutter and let go of a lot of crap that was holding me back. (And not just physical stuff.)

And, day-to-day, my house is a lot cleaner and easier to manage. Tidying is a lot quicker when you've less stuff and you know where everything goes.

(Read all my KonMari posts or watch my KonMari playlist on YouTube.)

BUT, in all the pros, I have noticed two very definite cons to the Method. And I’m not just talking about the fact that it takes a lot of time and it’s bloody hard work 'cause, y’know, you're expected to suck it up.

No, I’m talking about the ways it’s just not all it’s cracked up to be.

The Downsides To The KonMari Method​

Con #1: It sucks a lot of the joy out of life

Ironic, given that the whole premise is to surround yourself only with stuff that brings you joy. But you may find that things that previously brought you joy just don’t anymore. Shopping is a big one. Whatever small bit of happiness retail therapy brought you beforehand, forget it. That's pretty much gone forever. There’s no room for fun and frivolity when you’re second-guessing every single purchase. Yes, it makes you a more mindful shopper, and it keeps a lot of crap out of your house, but it also keeps out a lot of the craic.

It's the same with Christmas. I’m a big child at heart. My birth certificate will tell you I’m 32; my heart will tell you I’m 5. (My brain, on the other hand, will tell you I’m 90.) But when you're doing the KonMari Method, it’s hard to enjoy a season of what is essentially, for a lot of us, all about gift-giving and abundance and excess and over-indulgence.

KonMari Kons: The Downsides to the KonMari Method

I’m obviously on the minimalist bandwagon and I’m veering very much away from the consumer-led, fast-fashion, quick-fix life. I’m trying to focus more on the things that really matter to me. But I still want to be able to enjoy Christmas without breaking out in a cold sweat, and to buy a new t-shirt without feeling guilty.

So, while the KonMari Method is great for eliminating clutter and chaos from your life, some of the simple pleasures can get lost in the process too.

Con #2: “Joy” isn’t a great barometer

It may help clear out the crap, but the fact is that what brought you joy yesterday may not bring you joy today. And vice versa. The Method is predicated on the basis that the “joy” in items is this ever-present, never-changing thing, and that’s simply not true. You can’t constantly surround yourself with things that bring you joy because you won’t always feel joyous.

But the real problem, I think, comes afterwards. After you’ve got rid of all the clutter and you’re into maintenance mode. “Sparking joy” is not always immensely useful when it comes to buying things. (Because we do still have to buy things.)

Let’s take a silly example: socks. I love fun socks with cute sayings or whimsical characters, so it doesn’t help when I’m out and about and I hit the sock section of a store. Normally I can look at things and ask, “Do these really spark joy?”, and end up putting everything back. But if I were to buy all the socks I see that spark joy, I’d be living in Sock City.

Something bringing me joy is not a good enough reason for me to own it.

Notebooks bring me joy. Stationery brings me joy. Books bring me joy. If “joy” were the only premise on which I was basing my decisions, I’d have to buy a joy-sparking second house to store all that stuff.

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So, in my opinion, it’s not enough to simply ask if something sparks joy; you also have to ask if having twenty billion of that thing sparks joy, and if it's the ownership of the thing that sparks joy or just the item itself (in which case, you can leave it).

Here's another good example: I spotted two jackets while out shopping recently. Both sparked joy, but I only bought one because it was the warmer of the two and I needed a warm jacket. The other sparked joy but it was "just a jacket", of which I already have several.

Does that make sense?

In essence, I need to ask if it sparks more joy to buy an item than it does to walk away from it.

I hope my crazy brain has managed to convey those two things in a coherent way.

Essentially, the two downsides are that evaluating everything for whether it sparks joy can actually have the opposite effect -- no joy whatsoever. And ‘joy’ on its own isn’t necessarily the best basis for buying or keeping something. You need to know if it sparks joy to have that many of an item, and if it sparks more joy to keep it than it would to donate it.

I’d still recommend the KonMari Method overall, but those are two things that I think are worth keeping in mind.


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  1. I’m somewhat interested in doing the KonMari method.

  2. Hi Laura, i’ve just started using the Kon Mari method and can resonate with your article. I am so thrilled to have found the book – i’d never heard of it and it virtually jumped off the shelf at me in a backwater secondhand shop… then the next amazing thing happened, and that was finding you. I couldn’t visualise her folding method, and upon a google search i found your youtube video. Half a world away in Australia a Japanese woman and an Irish woman are enabling me to get my 53 years of shit together…

  3. Joy means different things to everyone. What brings me joy is very different from what brings my siblings joy. Sometimes, what I keep causes comments that get me angry. I’ve discovered that this may be because they think I’ve changed, when in reality, they are finally seeing me for who I am. I think that the concept behind the “sparking joy” aspect is that you do discover who you are. We change and yet we don’t. I haven’t rushed through everything in the house. I’ve been working on it for 2 1/2 years. Based on my beliefs and traditions, I must have everything done by July 2018. One of the beliefs is we must give away the possessions of someone who has died. We have four years in which to do this. I feel that I’ve accomplished a lot, particularly since discovering the KonMari method. This method has helped clarify my perspective, my values, and my beliefs. Doesn’t always make it easy to deal with a few of my parents possessions. It does help to “let go and let God.” And I’ve redefined what joy really means to me.

    • That’s wonderful that you’ve found your joy, Mil. It definitely means different things to different people and, because of that, it’s even more impressive that you’ve managed to shut out the outside noise and listen to your inner voice, even in the face of some adversity. Keep up the great work.

  4. i haven’t read the book however i am trying to declutter as mush as possible since i am only working in a different country and to bring back tons of stuff back is crazy. so i think her way is good.

    if you find joy on having decors then do it. you can keep for the next year. i mean, correct me if i’m wrong, but if you have decor for a particular event it’s ok, it’s not like you need to buy every year. it’s like a spare part..

    if you are a scrap (booking) enthusiast go and and get your stuff. if that makes you happy. as long as you use it. i think it’s the art of living with what you need and what makes you happy.

    • You’re right. I think the difficulty for some people arises when they’re buying things that spark joy but not using them, and then end up with too many. The individual item might spark joy, but the size of the collection does not. It can be tricky to get the balance right, especially for creative types or collectors.

  5. I read the book and gave up in total frustration about halfway through.
    Here’s my BIG problem with the KonMari method. At least 75% of the things that I have in my house, spark no joy at all. My toothpaste, deodorant, dishsoap, toilet brush, vacuum cleaner, medications, bandages, microwave oven, frying pan, silverware, tennis shoes, raincoat, underwear, bra, and umbrella spark no joy whatsoever. But without them, I would not smell good, my house would not smell good, I would not be healthy, I would have nothing to eat, and I would never leave the house. Oh, and neither would my dog. While the dog herself sparks joy, her dog kibble, flea medications, and leash don’t.
    The whole notion of “sparking joy” is just silly. It only works for things that are optional: some clothing (not all clothing; naked at work is not allowed), nick-nacks and decorations, and hobby gear. For me, do I need it (medications, dish soap, underwear), do I use it (pretty much everything else), or do I love it (about 15% of my total possessions) makes much more sense

    • There are different types of joy. Not everything will have you jumping up and down in excitement; some things have a quiet kind of joy that bring you inner peace because you know they make your life that little bit easier.

      If it helps, I have a whole video on this very topic, where I talk about what to do when something doesn’t “spark joy” but you need it: https://youtu.be/U7FysCxPOyI

    • Karen, I like the taste of my toothpaste and am grateful for what it does for the feel of my teeth. My deodorant also smells good, much better than I would without it and I like its packaging and shape. My dish soap is an eco one that works on dishes, and cleans my hands without a soap feel after, and smells good and looks nice when in a clear container. My vacuum cleaner does a great job, is easy to take apart and has cool colours. I also love that the inventor of it succeeded despite his rejection by the establishment. Medications I would need I try to look on positively as they are there to help me. My umbrella is Cath Kidston and has a cool design on it and I like looking at it. Does this not count under KonMari?

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