A Simple Switch For BREAKING Bad Habits

When we think about breaking bad habits we tend to associate it with deprivation. We’re giving up something that, though we know is bad for us, we’ve come to depend upon in some way.

So how can we take the sting out of the sacrifice and make us actually WANT to kick all that crap to the curb?


Breaking bad habits for good – how to give something up without feeling deprived

The trick with this one is to re-frame your thinking. Realise that you’re not giving something up, you’re making space for something better.

By saying no to the crap, you’re allowing yourself say YESSS to something incredible.

Here are some examples:

Saving money:

You’re not depriving yourself of that cute skirt or new notebook or pretty plant; you’re welcoming a debt-free life. You’re opening up the possibility of a Caribbean cruise, or a home makeover, or the investment that’s going to give you a brighter future.

Or an even cuter skirt.

And that’s better than any ol’ bits and bobs in the local shop.

  • Instead of giving up impulse purchases, you’re gaining financial freedom.

(Debt reduction is a big goal of mine this year. While frivolous purchases may seem fun in the moment, I’m focusing instead on the fact that they’re pulling me further and further away from that feeling of freedom.)

Reducing junk food:

You’re cutting out the things that make you feel sluggish, and that give you headaches and heartburn and mess with your digestion. Instead, you’re focused on finding great-tasting, nutritious foods that leave you feeling light and vibrant… and give you the sense of smug satisfaction that comes along with that.

You wouldn’t dump sludge in your car’s fuel tank and expect a smooth ride so don’t do the same to yourself.

You’re premium, baby. Pure premium.

  • Instead of giving up sugary snacks, you’re gaining increased energy and vitality… and sparkling arteries.

(As someone who used to dump vast quantities of sludge into herself in the form of chocolate, I speak from experience. Five years clean and sober now. There's a video at the bottom of this post that explains how I did it.)

Quitting smoking:

You’re stamping out the things that are dragging you one step closer to cancer. In doing so, you’re gaining better health, easier breathing (black lungs are so last season), and increased stamina. You’ll smell better, look better, and feel better.

And you’ll be able to keep up with the kids and pets in the park.

Or pull off that famous steps scene from Rocky.

  • Instead of giving up nicotine, you’re significantly improving the quality of your life.

(Plus, saying no to the sh*t they put in rat poison is always a good idea.)

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When it comes right down to it, it’s about stress management. Our bad habits are, in some way or another, stress relievers for us.

What we need to realise is that those bad habits CAUSE a lot of stress. We’re anxious about their impact on our health, we’re worried about what other people think, we have endless thoughts that we SHOULD quit, we’re stressed about what our next credit card statement will reveal, or how all this is affecting the ones we love.

By quitting a bad habit you’re eliminating the root source of a huge amount of what’s giving you grief in the first place.

And that’s definitely worth saying YESSS to.

If you’re looking for another neat trick that helped me go cold turkey on my chocolate addiction all those years ago, this video is for you. Click it to play:

What are you saying YESSS to in your life?


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  1. I don’t consider myself as having had a problem with chocolate in fact I gave up sugar when I was 8 years old for lent – t thing was I put on weight in my 30s lost it again in my 40s regainy that again in my early 50s but I lost 5 stone 2017 at 2lb a week and I did that because I didn’t want to get diabetes so I didn’t have any sweets or biscuits or anything. I went back to how I had 3 biscuits a day and one bar chocolate on a Friday night as my treat like I had when I was a child but unfortunately I developed a heart condition so I said f*** that shite. I am quite disillusioned because you think losing weight would actually be good for your health so I really don’t know the answer I feel very let down

    and very disappointed for all my good habits of eating for health and I didn’t consider I was on a diet I just considered that I was cutting out anything that might cause me diabetes and I ended up with a heart condition and stress which now that I’m speaking I think if I had had a few more sweets for maybe it would help with the stress as you say.

    so what do you do now for stress relief what replaces that because that’s a big thing for me and having heart condition on top of it stresses me and I don’t know if I really want to lose weight again considering what I did. it’s almost like I’ve put it on again just to spite the whole thing about eating healthy because it didn’t seem to work for me

    • Oh Eileen, I’m so sorry to hear about your heart condition. I suppose there are so many factors that can affect our health, not just diet. The thing now is to focus on your wellbeing. It may help to write a list of some things that help you de-stress (maybe reading, taking a bath, meditating, gardening, etc.) and then refer to that on a daily basis. That way you’re constantly reminded of all the things you can do that will be beneficial for you.

      Wishing you well. x

  2. I found this very helpful and rather comforting! We all have areas we want to change, but struggle with, feel bad about, around and around it goes. Sometimes just hearing someone else’s experience can help us understand our own and, in turn, help us effect our own change for the better. I think the area that would make the biggest difference for me is adding structure and routine back to my daily life. Between my kids getting older and then a family event that kept me “on-call” for a few months, things got discombobulated and I’m not quite sure what to focus on as I go through my day, and I’m left out-of-sorts most of the time. Thanks for sharing this :).

    • You’re so very welcome. I find in those situations that it helps me to have “anchors”. Start with one – something small that you can do every day that will help you feel good – and then go from there. It could be something as simple as a morning coffee, or an evening meditation. Once you’ve got a little touchpoint in your day, you can build on it.

  3. On my last comment

    A bit like planning the perfect house move and look what happened there if you remember

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