Today, I'm giving you permission to rest, even if it’s only for a short while. Put your feet up, say "feck it" to the dishes, and just enjoy yourself. No pressure, no obligations, no responsibilities.
And I want you to schedule in time to do that regularly. Let’s call it the “Feck It Fifteen”, where you get to do whatever you want to do and be whoever you want to be for 15 blissful minutes.
Sometimes we’re so busy trying to show other people how much we care that we forget about our first love – ourselves. We focus on all the things that didn’t get done instead of on the things that did. We’re hard on ourselves on days when we rest because we feel we should be doing something. We’re quick to congratulate others but slow to heap praise on ourselves. We beat ourselves up for only being able to get one thing done, even though it took every ounce of our energy just to get out of bed.
We’re told to always do our best, but we forget that our best fluctuates. One day we’ll be able to climb every mountain and follow every rainbow; another we’ll only be able to brush our hair and read a book. We shouldn’t feel bad about the latter; it’s just life.
So learn to say “feck it” for 15 minutes. Sit yourself down, give yourself a big ol’ pat on the back for everything you’ve been through, and just enjoy the moment. Flood your mind with happy memories, list all your strengths and achievements, give thanks for all the good things in your life, and just generally use that quarter of an hour to catch up on how amazing you are.
Now look at the rest of your week and block out more “feck it fifteen” breaks. Treat them as sacred. As appointments that can’t be rescheduled.
They may not happen every single day, but try fit them in a few times a week.
And just to spruce things up a bit, I’ve designed some stickers you can use. Click on the pictures below, print them onto sticker paper, and then cut them out and pop them in your planner. (Or if you’re like me and feel sticker paper is for fancy folk, print them on regular paper, cut them out, and glue them in. Nothing wrong with letting your inner child loose to get crafty.)
Or print the below poster and pop it on your door or on the back of your chair to let people know that, on pain of death, you’re not to be disturbed.
If you do use them, it would make my day to see pictures. Post them on the HowToGYST Facebook page or pop them up on Twitter or Instagram, using #feckitfifteen and tagging me (@HowToGYST) so I can see them and respond. I can’t wait!
(Official stickers will hopefully be available by the end of the year so I’m considering this a very basic test run.)
We all deserve a “feck it fifteen”, and not just once in a blue moon but most days, just to remind ourselves how important we are and how wonderful it is to take a break. Schedule that sh*t, close over the door, put your feet up, and say, “Feck it”.
Doesn’t that feel so much better?